Planes, Trains and Automobiles - Three Things I Would Use to Escape Children

Pets you grow

Demons of the loin

A nine month infection that you look after for 18 years and subsequent Christmases and Birthdays

Children

All of the sentences you have just read are accurate. It may not surprise you to read that I do not like children. I know right? I come across as so warm and nurturing here that you probably figured I'd make a wonderful father. Any child would be lucky to be reared by me.
But its true. And so today I'm here to bring you the pros and cons of children. Not the pros and cons of HAVING kids. No no. Just their general impact on society and its people. So here we go.

I'll start with the cons because, well, they're just easier.

Cons

Kids are dumb

All kids. Without exception. Some kids may be more or less dumb than their other demonic brethren, but stupid they remain.
When I was a child, a shy, prone to tears, 4 year old my primary 1 teacher attempted to teach us basic evolutionary theory. This was a catholic school so if I had been there twenty years earlier and she tried to pull this stunt there would have been hell to pay.
I'm talking fire and brimstone medieval retribution involving various types of wooden imprisonment and flogging.

Anyway, her exact words were that we had all been monkeys. I asked her if I had been a monkey. She told me yes. The connections I made in my brain between my feeble logic centre and my teachers well meaning words were such that I believed I had been born millions of years ago, lived the life of a monkey with my monkey family and my monkey friends and went to monkey school and died a monkey death.

Then I was reborn without fur to live my life again. Essentially my catholic teacher in a catholic school had told a catholic child raised in a catholic family that reincarnation was true.

The ideals and principles of children are like a bar of soap lying on the floor. One slight nudge and they will go flying from religion to religion and the next thing you know they are a crack dealing serial killer who take their orders from an imaginary talking dragon named Herbert.

So yeah, don't drop the soap.

Kids are disgusting

Having no understanding of basic hygiene and societal standards of behaviour, children will let loose any and every bodily fluid they have at their disposal at any given time. It's gross and I hate it and them.

Kids are loud

This one is fairly self-explanatory. They can't control their volume and they always have something to say. Not words, oh no. That would make it too easy for us to come to a conclusion as to what they want and resolve it. They must have us know that "ahhhhh" and "buhh!" and "*high pitched wailing noise*"
Once I was walking through the town, listening to music with my earphones as I often do, and I came across a mother with two children. One was still a baby and the other looked to be about 2 or 3.

And both their faces were bright red from screaming and wailing about their vague unhappiness and displeasure with their current situations and/or surroundings. It was then a massive grin came across my face like some kind of sociopath and I thanked the great gods Sennheiser for the wire connecting my ears and my phone.

Because I couldn't hear a damn thing.
That kind of euphoria only comes around a few times in a lifetime, like when you get your first car or when you start eating your Christmas dinner or, ironically, when your first child is born.

Pros

Kids are cute

I suppose sometimes they are aesthetically pleasing. Evolutionary speaking, my brain is hardwired in at least a small way to like kids and to protect them and stuff. Stupid brain.

Stereotypes 2: Electric Boogaloo

So a while ago I wrote about all these different stereotypes and how they were complete crap and stuff and things and words. Im lazy and uncreative and thus I will be making a repeat performance.

Im not really lazy and uncreative. Im really very creative.

Women. The fairer sex. The supposed brains of the human organisation. Stereotyped as the cleaned half, the nagger and all round more hygienic. In my short time at university I have determined that this is categorically, and with exception, complete bull. Don't you just love hyperboles?

At the beginning of the year, the two bathrooms were split into the boys bathroom and the girls bathroom. Fine. Grand. Sweet. Sound.

 Now normal people would assume the boys would never clean and their bathroom would become a sty. Not so. As it turns out the girls shower is always cluttered with empty shampoo bottles, the floor is always drenched, there is toilet paper on the floor that was once damp but subsequently dried off and has now fused to the floor.

The boys toilet, on the other hand, has no empty bottles, there aren't used or broken razors everywhere, the drain isn't clogged with hair and if the shower causes the floor to get wet we dry that right up.

Now I'll concede that there are maybe twice as many women here as men.

The kitchen. Cooking central. That room what smells and stuff. Of the 6 guys here, I know at least 4 of us consistently clean up after ourselves. The other two cannot account for the veritable maelstrom of leftover food, unclean dishes, cleaned dishes left on the counters and the mouse that lives with us in there.

If I've said it once I've said it a million times: Girls are gross. True Story

Don't read too much into that one.

Next up we have the Scottish. Now I know what you're thinking. You're thinking:

Aww he's just going to say they don't drink nearly as much as we think they do and in the process insinuate the irish drink more thus perpetuating the irish alcoholism stereotype. Nice going writing yourself into a corner there James!

Who the hell invited you anyway?

No what I was going to say was that...okay fine you got me. They don't ALL drink that much. Some definitely do. But not all of them. And I've not met the famous scottish racist yet. It would be really awkward considering on my floor theres a half Italian, a German, a half Indian and a half Malaysian. Would have made living here quite tense I'll tell you that. They also don't hate the English as much as I had expected. There are English people about and they don't get beaten up or stoned in the streets or anything

Well some do, but not in the way that you'd think...

Also Irish people don't say top of the morning and the lucky charms advertisement is woefully inaccurate. I mean what have blue moons and red balloons got to do with Ireland? If they had added various flags and a poorly designed pipe bomb, THEN we would have a factually accurate and exciting cereal.

Lucky Charms. How lucky are you?

A Misguided Christmas Message

It's that time of year again where the children of the world are convinced a fat old man defies half of the laws of physics simply to feed their ultra-consumerist desires. And I love it.

Maybe it's because I loved it from a very young age and that stuck with me, maybe it's the whole idea of togetherness and unity of mankind and peace and love on Earth if only for one day, maybe it's the food.
It's probably the food.

And what goes hand in hand with food? Drink of course. This is Ireland at Christmas, why not embrace the stereotype? So before you partake in a light beverage or two, let's take the time to educate you on all of the different types of drunk you can be.

Let's get started!

Number One: The Jekyll and Hyde

Drunk you is the complete opposite of the you that dwells in the land of sobriety. Where you are quiet, they are loud, what you want to keep a secret they scream it from the rooftops...repeatedly. This type of drunk has the advantage, however, of being able to distance yourself from all the rampant stupidity you bathed yourself in the night before.
When all of your friends say "James you got so drunk last night you started humping that statue of Buddha"
And I'll say "Dammit drunk James you've done it again. What are we going to do with him, guys?"

Then they look at me and make a call to a man in white with a giant butterfly net.

Number Two: The Weepy

The weight of the world lands squarely on your shoulders. Everything that has ever gone wrong hits you at once and you simply can't hold the tears. That time your dog died. That time you stubbed your toe. When you got dumped. That thing that happened in that country in Africa that time.
Your friends are obliged to hang around you and make sure you're okay.

And oh do they resent you for it.

Number Three: The Hulk

Whether it's because of a few too many mouthfuls of  a certain member of the Daniels family or just your general demeanour, when you drink you become an uncontrollable rage monster, fighting anything in your path for no other reason than they might have glanced accidentally in your general direction that one time...maybe

Number Four: The Master Planner

You've had a few. You're chatting with your friends; you're having a good time when suddenly you're making plans to go travelling with two people that you met that day whilst you were trying to decide whether you should have another beer or start on the vodka. You agree to a great many things that you have no sober desire to follow through on
The next morning you decide whether or not you want to just make up an excuse so you don't have to see these people ever ever again.

Ever

Number Five: The Old Friend

Utilising the wonders of 21st century smart phones, keeping in contact with friends has never been easier. Drinking has made it almost impossible to not contact them.
At various points in the night, people whose names you haven't heard or thought about in months are receiving a multitude of misspelled words and phrases in the form of a text message. When this doesn't deliver an instantaneous response, you ring them.
They answer.
Here is where it all goes downhill. Your conversation goes in circles; you forget what you were trying to say, why you rang them or even who you are calling. All you know is that the person on the end of the line is of the utmost importance and you have to see them...like now.

And so you, of unsound mind and equilibrium you find your way to their home, meet their friends, eat their food and go on your merry way.

It is only in the morning you remember that you went there and the friend lets you know what a complete idiot you are. Friendship, ladies and gentlemen

Number Six: The Usain Bolt

To you, modern transportation is a crutch. Evolution has delivered unto you all the athleticism you will ever require and it is vastly superior to any well heated taxi cab when it comes to taking you the 3 miles to your home. You are fast. You are strong. No distance cannot be traversed. And the best part is you get to skip all that boring running in silence stuff because you don't remember doing it. All you know now is that you are home, in the clothes you were wearing the night before and your legs burn like the fires of Mt. Doom.

Despite this pain you do not learn from this and are certain to do it again.

Number Seven: The Pigeon

It's the end of the night. You are alone. Of course you are. You are the hapless and hopeless wandered of the club. Staying in one place too long was boring. But as is the protocol at the end of the night, you begin to make your way home. 

You aren't that familiar with your location but you know your nest is in this city and you have to get there. So you start walking. A sense of direction sober you just doesn't have kicks in and before you know it you are waking up swaddled in coats and jackets your friends have put around you after showing up at their door an hour or two after they came home. 

You don't know how you got here or by what means, but all that is important is that you got there and there is a Spar across the street with a hot food counter and coffee.

Number Eight: The Gentleman

The English language and your inebriated self are best friends. There are no monosyllabic words in your repertoire, oh no. You say things like "Madame" and "libation" and "repertoire". Ladies, first, doors held open, you paying for the drinks, you are a perfect gentleman. You just can't use those big words without slurring, you're swaying whilst holding the door open and the bartender gives you a hesitant look before serving you another shot of tequila. 

But you're still wildly polite.

These are just a few of the many persona's you may adopt whilst partaking in the festivities. Trust me there are many more. But those you will have to figure out for yourself.

I don't want to demonise drinking, alcohol is a social lubricant and gives you some great stories, but always remember, everything in moderation, drink responsibly yada yada yada and know that at one time or another I have been almost all of the personalities above. 

I'll let you decide which those are.

Oh and don't let my level of (un)fitness dissuade you from believing I can be the Usain Bolt.

The Inexplicable Intricate Rules of My Life

From reading about my life and beliefs and whatnot, you may have come to think to yourself:

Wow, I really wish I could be JUST LIKE James.

And who is to say you can't?

However, to live in my shoes you have to understand there are a certain amount of rules, provisos and a couple of quid pro quos.

Rule number the First

Food must never touch. This is tantamount to being happy in my life.

Rule 2: electric boogaloo

You may not drink from the carton, it's gross

Rule C

Try to limit the amount of times you say words that sound like make, bake, take or cake. People will hear you and make fun of you. Relentlessly

But then, as obviously and crucially important these rules are, they do of course come with innumerable contradictions. Take the no food touching rule for instance. I hate food touching. Mash potatoes must never come in contact with the tomato sauce of baked beans for example. This hatred stems from a childhood incidence involving a camping trip, a deceased and rotting sea creature, my 8 year old self and a bet which will not be discussed.
It was then that I felt what can only be described as crippling discomfort whenever I came in contact with something that leaves a smell or residue.

Deep psychological trauma aside, there are many exceptions to the food rule. Sandwiches are foods which must naturally touch and are actually a massive part of my diet. Mince, carrots and potatoes in reality have to be mixed because they were regularly mixed before...the incident. Gravy makes everything better. Need I say more?

For the no drinking from the carton rule there are also contradictions. In fact, in all likelihood there are more cartons that the rule doesn't apply to than does. The rule mainly applies to Milk. Even if I am the only one that is going to drink from it, I have to get a glass or something.
For years I have scolded my sisters, two of which are my elders, for drinking from cartons. In my mind, when they take a swig, some of the saliva is invariably returning to the container, no matter how small. Every little helps as they say, as the ratio of milk to saliva slowly changes and shifts. Think of how much saliva is in that carton that you share with your beloved friends and family. Think of how much old spit you pour over your cereal or put in your tea.

Yeah. Drink from it now.

Orange Juice on the other hand is completely okay for me to drink from the carton. I have no specific reasoning of decade old emotional scarring to explain this. It just is what it is. Who am I to question my own rules? Without rules, society falls apart. And if they are rules for my life, and my life is my personal society, then it would be me to fall apart. And if that were to happen, who would be the token Irishman in a hall of Scots, I ask you?

And finally, the final rule of finality...there aren't really contradictions to this one. It's more of an optional rule I guess. You don't mind saying "cek, mek, bek, tek?"

Then go nuts!

Moral Fibre

In every person there is a sense of right and wrong. Every single person will have different beliefs on what goes with or against their conscience. For some, the height of their personal immorality will be when they are selfish or greedy and that will be all they see as wrong. Others can go as far as committing murder and not feeling a shred of remorse such is the vast difference in their moral beliefs.

For me, I believe that as long as you aren't knowingly hurting someone or affecting their lives in a negative fashion whether it's directly or indirectly then you're grand. It goes against what I believe to be right and wrong to hurt someone intentionally, physically or otherwise, even if I don't like them. The exception is self-defence or if they are having a go at me verbally. Even then I regret some of it later.

Some people don't share my views. Maybe their moral fibre is better at keeping them regular or something, I don't know, but they think their beliefs are more accurate. For instance, today I met a friend of a friend. This person and a few of us were chatting and we were discussing the mad stoners a few floors up from us in this circle of hell they call AKD alternatively life styled members of our esteemed hall and this person said that people who smoked, whether it was cigarettes or drugs, were bad people.

Now everyone from every walk of life is allowed their own opinion and I will always respect that right. I've met opinions I don't agree with but wouldn't argue with people about them because it is their basic human right to have these thoughts.

But that is complete bullshit.

My parents have been on and off smokers for my entire life. They taught me right from wrong and I think they did a rather good job of it. So it stands to reason that they are either good people or exceptional liars and honestly I would be happy with either. I mean being able to convincingly sustain this lie for nearly 20 years, that's something to be admired.

My grandmother has smoked long before I was alive and while this woman is disturbingly racist occasionally reveals herself to have different beliefs to myself she is still a good person.

I have known many smokers in my life and I have never once thought it detracted from them as people, more that I worried occasionally for their health. But they aren't hurting anyone so who am I to judge. I know people will go on about second hand smoke, but it's not like they chain smoke and force me to bathe in their exhalation.

Another thing some people see as immoral is Piracy.
I believe that it is an old and noble art form that should go about Poseidon's garden unabated.

And also digital piracy. People argue that theft is theft. This is irrefutable. Theft is in fact theft. It's a good thing I'm not stealing then when a completely nondescript human, who is most certainly not connected to your devoted writer in any way shape or form and thus this writer is not legally responsible, downloads copies of films or music or e-books or whatever.

This of it this way. Say you had a mug in your hand and someone else saw this mug and thought to themselves "hey that's a pretty cool mug, I want one too". They then proceed to instantaneously duplicate an exact replica of this mug. Both parties still have the mug though only one person paid for it. Is that stealing?

I'm not going to go into arguments involving piracy or smoking. It's just one of the facets of life that interests me, that people can have such different ideas of what is right or wrong. And none are more right or wrong. There are the accepted morals of society and there are personal ideas of right and wrong.

The exceptions are The Westboro Baptist Church, Dictators and children. They are just plain evil.

Fighting Fair

I should preface this with the fact that I have never been in a fight in my life. I've wrestled with friends, family, fashion choices, the decision to keep my no shave november beard (I think I might, sorry Granny), but none of that has turned into a fully fledged fight.

I talk. I talk and talk and I say the right thing to avoid a fight. It's not cowardice. Not by any stretch. In the back of my mind I am actually scared of hurting people. Okay, so, I'm not massively physically imposing, but I think I could hold my own long enough to leave an actual physical impression on the guy I'm hypothetically fighting against. And there are all these horror stories about some guy punching another guy once and that guy falling down, cracking his head and dying.
How would I even begin to go about dealing with that?

So as I said I talk. I've talked my way out of hundreds of fights. And it's not that I get into these situations myself. On the contrary. People and I get on very well usually. But sometimes some of my friends display their less than admirable qualities and regress to their baser natures of the neanderthal and have to fight someone to present their alpha male status to the world.

This always confused me. I have found that on the burger of my life, I wasn't given any Machismo. And thats okay. It makes me gassy anyway.

There are few times I get riled up enough that I want to hit someone and they only occur when a) someone starts talking crap or is disrespectful about a friend of mine or a family member or b) whenever one of my friends is in a fight. I always miss it when they get into fights. It will have been a night I haven't gone out with them or something like that but I get angry knowing that someone took a swing at them.

There was a time recently, I was outside a club and a friend of mine got started on by some guy. I stepped in between them and told the guy to back down. This guy was having none of it, nostrils flaring, swear words flying, insightful questions thrown about enquiring about the nature of my participation and whether or not I suffered from the Freudian disorder known as an Oedipus Complex (look it up, you'll get the joke).

His friends on the other hand were perfectly reasonable and told me he was drunk and whatever. I was perfectly polite to them because they were so to me. I hadn't moved from in front of this angry fellow as I told his friends I completely understood and that I had friends who were exactly the same.

I tend to dwell on potentially violent events like this and wonder what I would do. I wouldn't hit him first. I just don't have that in me. I suppose I feel I need so kind of tangible, personal justification to hit a guy. I wouldn't fight fair either. I would hurt him in any possible way until he fell down, but I absolutely draw the line at kicking a guy when he's down. If he went down I would give him the option of staying down. If he got back up and kept going, I would keep going, and so on.

There's really no such thing as fighting fair. There are winners and losers in a fight. There are also no good guys in these random ass fight. It's simply two people who can't keep themselves in check and on some level that seems to offend me.

On the subject of fighting, at the beginning of the year I went to the introductory class for boxing because it's supposed to be really good for fitness and as well as that it would teach me the basics about fighting.

As it turns out fighting is really tiring. Like, I mean, Who would have ever known it could be so draining. It was awful. But my testosterone loved it. Eventually I actually came to enjoy myself (the instructor said I was really good, just saying) until the instructor called us all round and said

For all the women around here, and some of the guys, a broken nose is almost a given in boxing

And I haven't went back since. 

People Don't Change

Well isn't that a dirty rotten lie? People constantly change based on their environment, present company, hell even their diet changes people. People change every day to accommodate new information, beliefs, television advertisements and those warning labels on the sides of washing up liquid.

But on a grander scale, do they really change? Do they change their base nature? Is this change simply growth?

I like to think change is not only possible, but probable and occurs every few years. Here's a quick run through of my personal timeline.

Born shy, my mother likes to tell the story of how when I was 2 or 3 (or whatever the appropriate age for sentences is) I asked a friend of hers who was visiting at the time "are you not going home yet?" Even at this young age, I was not a social creature.

Fast forward to primary school. I was still not crazy sociable. I got along with everyone at least a bit, I had some close friends, but primary school was surprisingly challenging. It was, more than anything, a seven year long popularity contest where I was never the winner, but never the loser. For a lot of it I was stuck very much in the middle, the physical manifestation of an "Average Joe". Average James as it were. Worst super hero ever. "Quick come help us Average James! There's a fire!" I would stand at average height and run to the scene at the average running speed of 8 mph and inform everyone that the fire brigade would be here soon.

That quickly became the most boring hero ever...

But yeah primary school was your typical be-friends-with-the-cool-kids fiasco. And I remained the overweight, introverted kid who's talents lay with a pen and paper rather than with, say, physical exertion of any kind.

I stayed that way until the end of my 4th year at secondary school. That year, the french classes were offered the chance to go on a trip to France for a week. Officially it was to help us absorb French culture and test our french speech. Really it was a trip to Disney Land. Who could turn that down? You look me in the screen and tell me you would turn that down. I dare you! I'll control alt delete and end task your ass.

Anyhoo, on this trip I began to realise that people outside my comfortable group of friends and outside of the library weren't as scary or as crappy as I had thought. Other people were actually kind of cool. There was a swimming pool at the hotel we were staying at and I, having done swimming lessons for many years when I was younger, wanted to give it a go. I had my old trunks I hadn't worn in a few years and it never even occurred to me that they wouldn't fit. In retrospect it wasn't my brightest move. Oh well. But I did one length in this pool and thought to myself "swimming didn't used to be this hard did it?"

So when I got home I took up swimming again. Every Friday after school I would toddle on down to my local leisure centre and swim as much as I could. This was the first time I'd decided to physically change something about myself. Before then I just didn't care how I looked. I was comfortable with my permanent bed head that made my sisters cringe, I was comfortable wearing the same old jeans and t shirt that, again, displeased my eldest sister who craved variety in my fashion choices, and I just didn't care that I was wearing trainers with jeans just because it was comfy. I'm a function over fashion kind of guy. Still am, and all of those things I still do, except the hair, it just stopped going that way. So yeah first physical change.

Soon after that I made my first personality change. And it wasn't a personality change to fit in with a group of people who I thought were "cool", it was just something I wanted. I wouldn't go as far as to say I hated the kind of person I was, but I was by no means happy with it. This is the part I'm the most silently proud of. When I simply decided to become confident. People can and do change. All it takes is the will. And it didn't hurt that I lost a metric crap-tonne of weight. I decided to be confident and make new friends and that's exactly what happened. It's what I consider to be my greatest achievement, proving to myself that I can literally be whatever I want.

Secondary school contained the biggest changes for me sure, but even at University now I'm fine tuning things. I'm learning to be less passive, as in if something bugs me I don't just shake it off, I think hard about whether than actually bothers me and if, later, I'll regret having not said anything. I won't sit there and be yelled at anymore. If someone yells I will yell right back and then some.
And I'm swimming so much more. I got a membership for the year so I can just walk in whenever I want.

So the moral of the story is, don't let pessimists (like me) and cynics (like me) tell you people don't change. Don't let them shake their head and say "even if they do, they don't change much". I am a completely different person from even 5 years ago. God that wasn't that long ago. But there you go. Change is capable in the greatest and smallest of ways.

You just gotta want it.


Well that one got serious didn't it?